Years ago, when people dated, they dated to find a person they would like to marry. Dating was not taken lightly. When you were on a date, you were seeing if the other person was a good fit for you as a potential future husband or wife. Everyone was really more on the same page when it came to dating, because there were only a couple of pages. Now there is a whole book, and it’s hard to figure out what page your date is on. Here are the different levels of commitment in no particular order:
Chapter One – Just Having Fun!
Chapter Two – Want A Girlfriend/Boyfriend.
Chapter Three – Want A Serious Girlfriend/Boyfriend, No Marriage!
Chapter Four – Want A Hook Up I Can Call My Girlfriend/Boyfriend, Only When I Want To.
Chapter Five – Want To Keep You On The Backburner, Just In Case Nothing Else Works Out.
Chapter Six – Commitment Phobia!
Chapter Seven – Dating A Person Who Doesn’t Want To Commit, But I’m Sure They’ll Change Their Mind.
Chapter Eight – Want To Know Marriage Is In The Future.
Chapter Nine – Looking To Get Married (For Some The Book Ends After Marriage).
Chapter Ten – Looking To Get Divorced!
Chapter Eleven – Dating Someone Much Younger Because They’re Hot!
The problem with this is that men and women are almost always in different chapters. I see a lot of women in chapter seven dating men who are in and around chapter four to chapter six.
Are you guilty of dating someone who is not a good match for you?
Let’s just be clear, if you are looking for a long-term relationship with your significant other and they’re not ready to commit, you can’t make them, nor do you want to! If you have been dating for a while (several months or a year), if they are ready to commit to you long-term, you will have no doubt in your mind. Girls have a hard time with this concept, but ask any guy you know, your man will let you know if he wants to get serious with you. They will not let you slip away if they think you’re the one for them.
On the other hand, if you have been dating for a while and your boyfriend or girlfriend’s Facebook status is still single or blank, and they don’t like you to go to parties with them, or they tell you they just want to date for like ten years, leave! The chances of them changing their mind are about as good as you winning the lottery. If they do change their mind and you’re gone, they will come looking for you.
*Tip: Stop wasting valuable time dating people who are not a good match for you because you think they are a good catch.
If they don’t want to be caught, it is kind of a moot point isn’t it?
Spiritual teacher and author Jennifer O’Neill is devoted to helping others learn how to live a happier life through her books, readings and workshops. The focus of her writing and teaching is to simplify the process of using the spiritual tools and gifts you were born with in a way that fits into your everyday life.
She is the author of several books including Soul DNA, Inspirational Quotes, Keys To The Spirit World, The Pursuit of Happiness, and several more to be released this year. Jennifer has been told her teachings are similar to Abraham Hicks, Eckhart Tolle’s and Demartini.
Jennifer is also one of Hawaii’s top psychics and the leading expert in the field of Soul DNA and the originator of the Soul DNA@ process. She has spent the last twenty years as a professional psychic and spiritual teacher helping people all over the world with their spiritual growth.